Please don’t let it be mistaken, relationships require a lot of work. Every relationship has their own bumps — like how many days can you play Madden? when one would rather try to stuff that yogurt container in the almost exploding trash can instead of taking the garbage out. All of that aside, you two kids are still truly, madly, deeply in love with each other. Cue the Sound Garden soundtrack! Actually, please don’t! So how do you beat the odds and make sure you have that forever kind of love?
1. Truly Intimate – It not about 50 shades of grey. Real intimacy can a simple kiss hello or a bear hug before you head out for the day can really strengthen your bond. Or when you look at each and automatically know what each other is thinking – the words that go unsaid. Or maybe you have a corny secret handshake. It’s the little things that make all the difference.
2. You’re on the same team. You may not always split your chores, errands, and responsibilities 50/50, but you both know what it means to pull your own weight. Also, being your partner’s cheerleader and vice versa helps to strengthen your bond. Focusing on the positive aspect of their personality and your relationship will build a better foundation than tear each other down.
3. Spontaneity is everything. Keep it lively whether you’ve been together for 7 months or 7 years. You know that changing things up every so often will keep your partner on his/her toes. Surprises don’t need to be elaborate. Simplicity can go a long way – like bringing home her favorite ice cream, making a reservation at that restaurant he’s been talking about. It’s unexpected is what makes being together So. Much. Fun.
4. “Absence makes the heart grow fonder” You know how to spend time apart. So don’t underestimate those girls’ or boys’ nights out! But it’s also important to know when you should turn down an invitation to spend some quiet time together. Just because you spend all your time together doesn’t make it quality time; set aside one night a week as date night and leave the cell phones at home (or in your pocket), and just enjoy each other’s company.
5. You say “I love you” often…and you ALWAYS mean it. Remember the feeling you felt the very first time you said “I love you” to your partner? You felt the butterflies. But if you’ve been together for a while, those three little words can start to lose their meaning. Saying “I love you” suddenly becomes as uneventful as a hello or bye. So make sure you say it often, but make sure you’re not saying it absentmindedly. An easy way to make it meaningful is to make eye contact when you say it.
6. You understand the definition “unconditional love”. Every relationship has its ups and downs, but knowing how to work as a team and looking toward better times is what will make it work. Assured that you’re both in it for the long run is essential to getting through those bumps. Communication is very key, be honest but, humble. Pettiness and keeping account of faults does not solve the problem. Attack the problem; not each other.
7. No Keeping up the Jones’. You are your own brand; you don’t compare yourself to other couples. Unique in your own right. You know that what works for one couple, doesn’t mean it will work with you. So, don’t let your foundation crack by letting outside opinions dictate details of your relationship. No one knows your relationship better than the two people involved.